The hidden abuse in modern society

I've been researching for a different post this week but after watching 'Abused by my girlfriend' and a couple of videos on YouTube (I'll link the main one below), I feel the need to speak about abuse and sexism happening towards men.
Men are constatly told to 'be strong', '

man up' or 'stop being a p*ssy' in everyday life, especially when being vulnerable. The term toxic masculinity is thrown around in the media and activists, without due explanation, used when speaking about feminism. However, this behaviour affects men as much, if not more than women. Toxic masculinity has been around as long as people have existed, forcing men to appear unemotional and guarded. Toxic masculinity includes using stereotypically male behaviours to restrict emotional expression and enforce the expectation of dominant attitudes and demeanor.

Between 2012 and 2017, 23% of domestic violence victims reported to police were men (Mankind Initiative). That being said, men are three times less likely to report abuse they have suffered, so the number of victins may be much higher. Current attitudes towards male suffers are dismissive, attributing abuse to weakness, creating a sense of shame. This ignorance towards male suffers in society has blinkered many people's ability to see abuse when it is happening. Although many signs are the same as those in female victims, they are often over looked as men are assumed to be more 'able to handle themselves'.

Toxic masculinity in society has recently been brought to light by Terry Crews; when he spoke about his abuse to colleagues, they mocked him and belittled his experience. This stopped him speaking out for many years. Male rape and sexual abuse has become such a joke in modern society that it has integrated into films and TV. We have all heard the 'don't drop the soap' one-liner, and most of us have probably laughed at it. But if we stop to think about it, is it not laughing at victims of a horrific crime? Why, then, is it widely accepted? Perhaps, sympathy runs dry with criminals? Maybe the offence seen as punishment for their crime? In the US alone, over 200,000 men are raped in prison every year. If that was on the streets, would we be complacent?

Self proclaimed feminists who disregard male suffering and abuse, to me, are not feminists. Feminism is about equality between sexes. Men are targets more than is reported in the media but are pressured to keep quiet by a society that mocks vulnerability and minimises their issues. If we want equality, we need to treat each person's struggle with kindness and understanding. 

Sexual assault of men played for laughs
https://youtu.be/uc6QxD2_yQw